When our nervous system is in fight/flight or shut down mode, our senses heighten as a way to locate and identify potential threats and harm. Our eye sight may become more focused, our hearing becomes clearer, touch sensations are felt with more intensity and our sense of smell…
A poem about disorganized attachment
In 2021, I struggled significantly with chronic urinary tract and yeast infections. Although I struggled with yeast infections in my past sexual…
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From someone who lives with depression to others
I recently read Deb Dana’s new book, Anchored: How To Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory. I had read her previous book Polyvagal Theory…
You are allowed to desire sex You are allowed to desire pleasure Even if you came from a religious background Even if you hold shame around your…
Submissives and bottoms who are newer to the kink scene can be at a higher risk of harm in the community due to lack of knowledge or eagerness…
Whew - I am through another wave of depression. Every time I come out the other side I remember how good it feels to not be depressed. The relief is…
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